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So you've just been through a breakup. Perhaps you've been through this before or this might be your first time. Either way, this time... feels like it's the worst breakup you've ever had. You feel pain... lots of it. You may feel like there is no hope. Sadness and depression soon follow and you feel as if there is nothing you can do about it. The worst part though, is not knowing how long this emptiness inside your heart is going to last for. You wake up every morning with the intent that you will finally get over this person. But by the end of the night, the feelings all come rushing back and you can't help but to think about the breakup. Although this may seem like the worst moment of your life, don't lose hope. Nothing lasts forever... and that includes both the good and bad (as quoted from a really good friend of mine).
Everyone has different ways to deal with breakups. Some get over it faster than others. From what I've seen, it's the girl who feels the pain right after a breakup while for the guys, it doesn't hit them until 2-3 months later down the road. Not always true, just a biased observation. So I'm going to give you kids some tips on how to get over a breakup (yes, it will apply for both genders).
Let It Go
You know the song "Let It Go" from Disney's Frozen? One of the lines from that song is "Conceal, don't feel, don't let them know". Do the opposite of that. Cry. Feel. Let it all out. In fact a better line to use from the song would be "Let it go, let it go! Can't hold it back anymore!" Don't hold back your tears. If you need to cry, then cry. Crying actually relieves stress (and toxins but that's not our main concern right now) and eases the pain. Yes, this may seem weak but... let's face it, you deserve to be. The person you once loved and was with is now not a part of your life anymore. You deserve every bit of these crying moments.
Work Out
The last thing you want to do is get out of bed and start exercising. I'm sorry, what I meant to say was, the ONLY thing you want to do is stay in bed all day. You lost the love of your life. You feel sad. You have no energy to deal with anything in life right now. This is perfectly normal. But there ought to be times when you feel like you can't live this way forever. Something has to change and it changes when you go to the gym. Your physique doesn't even matter; exercise is good for everyone. The first thing you should do is get yourself into better shape and better health after all those nights of torturing yourself by crying to sleep. Exercise is a good way to get your mind off of things, especially negative things. It releases endorphins which again, relieves stress and makes you feel a bit better. So yeah, consider exercising... it's probably one of the most effective ways to healing your breakup wounds.
Write
I've always felt writing is a strong way to express what you really feel inside. When you break up with someone, very often you'd have thoughts about getting back together with them. Again, very normal because you would think back on all the good times you had but also forgetting the reason why you broke up with them in the first place. I got this tip from How I Met Your Mother where Ted wrote a letter to his future self explaining why he shouldn't get back together with Robin. He lists the things he'll miss about her, the ways he's changed her, and most importantly, the reason why they broke up. Write yourself this letter because it involves a lot of reflection and it's where the emotions come splurging out on paper. The trick is... when you're able to read this letter sometime in the future without crying, you will realize how much you've changed and how far you've come from getting over them. But besides writing this letter, you'll probably end up writing everyday about how you feel because it's the only way you can express your feelings out loud. When the time comes that you don't feel the need to write about the breakup anymore, you're another step closer to getting over them.
Although there are many other things people can do to get over someone, here are some things you definitely SHOULDN'T do:
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