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Everyone has some insecurities when it comes to relationships. I recently read a post from hooligan street journal that was forwarded to me by
lovepridefreezedried-chicken called "Confidence vs. Jealousy". The beginning of the post says that when people think about confidence and jealousy, they tend to think examples of extreme cases.
The feeling of being insecure sucks. Insecurity is mostly due to lack of confidence in oneself, the other person, or the relationship in general. Let's use an example: If you see or hear that your partner flirting with someone else, you become jealous and start to feel insecure. In your mind, you are already thinking of the most extreme case that can happen: your partner leaving you for the person they're flirting with. This thought all comes from the fact that they are flirting with someone else, and is having fun doing so. Why do we think about the most extreme cases when it comes to these scenarios? It's probably because we know that there is a slight chance that this extreme case can happen. We've seen it happen to other couples, we've seen it in movies, in T.V. shows, but you're really hoping that it doesn't happen to you. But you're not sure because you can't control your partner's actions or thoughts. You can't control whether they start to fall for the other person or not. It's all too complicated in your mind but you can only think of the most extreme scenario. It's perfectly normal to do so. You may think that it's not right feeling jealous but it's part of our natural instincts and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Just as hooligan street journal says , "If someone tells you that you should never be jealous, tell them to go fuck themselves because it's completely illogical not to feel jealousy."
Anyways, I just wanted to write this note because I know that a lot of young couples have this problem of feeling insecure and I just wanted them to know that it's completely normal to feel that way. The best way to work this out is to talk to your partner and let them know how you feel. If they're mature enough, they'll understand and try to make it work. If they do end up falling for the other person they flirted with, well, you've done your best by telling them how you feel and there was nothing else you could have done anyways. It will probably be better for you to move on. Good luck to all the couples out there. I hope as their relationships mature, they will as well.
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