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Have you ever been too scared to make a move on your crush because you don't want to do/say something stupid or are just too shy to? Very often, at these times, we find ourselves doing nothing about it. We will continue feeling shy or scared and everyday that passes by, you hope that your crush approaches you first or that some miracle will bring you two closer together. This is what this note is about: Waiting for a miracle.
It all depends on personality, actually. There are aggressive, assertive, and passive people.
Some people are aggressive and confident, and will approach their crush immediately because they are so anxious in finding out if their crush and them will work out. Aggressive people hate waiting. There is nothing wrong with being aggressive/confident. (When I use aggressive as an adjective, it does not necessarily mean a bad thing. When I use the term aggressive, it means that they are the first to take action.) Heck, some girls like a guy who's aggressive and shows confidence, so being aggressive has it's benefits.
Some people are assertive and wait for the right time and place to make a move on their crush. There is actually no absolute for the "right time" or the "right place". It's all about how you and your crush feel. If you feel that both you and your crush is ready, then the time for approach is perfect. It's tricky though. It also takes some patience because you being ready does not necessarily mean your crush is ready.
Lastly, the passive group. Ah yes, the majority of people lie in this group, which of course, includes me. Passive people typically don't make the first move. They are more conservative and are afraid to take risks because of what they might lose. However, this becomes a problem because all we do is wait for miracles to happen. Ninety nine point nine percent of the time, these miracles don't exist and yet we keep telling ourselves that something will happen. Well, they won't and until you take action, waiting is all you'll be doing. I'm not saying waiting is bad but waiting too long has its consequences such as loss of interest towards crush (or vice versa) or that your crush ends up with someone that decided to make a move. If the latter occurs, we end up being depressed but to be honest, it is only ourselves to blame for not taking action.
So all in all, I just want to say that it's okay to be passive except when it's time for you to make the first move, just man up and do the right thing. You know exactly what will happen if you don't do anything...(you miss out...herp derp). So, lesson is: Always assume that miracles WILL NOT happen when you wait around; you should not count on them!
P.S. If you still feel like you're not confident enough to approach your crush, alcohol can usually help with that. But don't try the alcohol method until you are most absolutely certain that there is no other way. Anyways, more about alcohol in my future notes =).
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