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The title is a bit misleading but it asks exactly what it's supposed to (could have been written with better wording though). What the title really asks is, "How long do you have to be with a person in order for it to count as a relationship?" In other words, if someone were to ask you "How many relationships have you been in?" What counts as a relationship for you? Being with someone for 3 or more months? 5 months? 1 year? It can go on and on.
Some people may define a relationship as everyone that they've been on a date with (which for some people can be quite a few). Some may define it as being together with someone for 3 months or more (I used to be one of these people except I defined a relationship as being with someone for 6 months or more). It actually all depends on the person, really.
I went around and asked people what defines a relationship for them and to no surprise some people gave me a required number of months, some defined a number of dates with a certain person, and some people just gave me a whole list of everyone they went out with. I've noticed one thing though, most people defined what a relationship was to them with conditions from their most memorable relationships. In other words, if Sally had a really memorable relationship with Linus that lasted 6 months, then Sally would most likely say the conditions for a relationship to count as one would be anyone you've dated for more than 6 months. This is pretty normal.
Truth is, there is no length of time that can determine whether or not a relationship can be considered a relationship. 2 people can spend a month together and could have felt and done things with each other that another couple, whom have spent a year together, have not. You can't say that either relationships do not count as relationships because it only matters for the people that were in them. It all comes down to a couple questions, "Was the relationship memorable with the other person? Did you love them? ". If your answer to both were yes, then there's no doubt that you and your significant other (at the time) were in a relationship together.
Sadly, sometimes what one person in the couple considers to be a relationship, may not be for the other person. It's all about how they felt while they were in the relationship. So... how many relationships would you consider yourself to have been in?
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