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Long distance can be tough on any couple though some may do better than others and some (very lucky ones) don't have to go through it at all. Long distance usually makes or breaks the relationship. It is the ultimate test to see how far your love can travel. For long distance to work, it takes a lot of work from both people and as soon as 1 gives up, it's almost always over. But if a couple is really dedicated on making it work, here is a tip on one aspect: communication.
The communication that I will talk about is not communication about the relationship but ACTUAL talking between the couple. For long distance to work, messaging or talking to each other in some way is a must. But how does one couple go about doing this? Here are some tips:
For the couples that usually talk to each other a lot - Don't spend too much time everyday calling or video calling them because it won't be sustainable. What I mean by this is that if both people call each other everyday and talk until the sun rises, in a matter of weeks or months, they will run out of things to say to each other because they will have probably discussed every topic possible. Sure the couple can talk about what happened everyday but that probably won't sustain your regular 4 - 5 hour conversation time. Instead of exhausting all your possible topics in a matter of months, try holding back on calls and let texting be sufficient. Texting takes time and it's much slower than talking on the phone since responses are delayed. This will give couples more time to talk about what they want to. The risk of this is that some couples might actually get annoyed when the other person doesn't text back fast enough. But besides texting, set up phone/video calling dates to dedicate your time for listening to each other's voice. This way, your video/phone calling time will seem much more valuable.
For the couples that don't talk much - If you're in a long distance relationship, communicating with one another is very important. This shows the other person that you want to know about their life and keep in touch with one another. Going too long without communicating can damage the relationship as the couple will get used to not talking for days on end, eventually forgetting about the other person. So again, if you don't talk much, start by texting each other everyday (or if that's too much, then every other day). Couples will soon get used to this routine. Even just texting a simple good morning or good night can make someone's day. Then, when the couple is ready to start talking on video or phone more often, they can pick that up and eventually include as a part of their daily routine.
Just think about the old days when the only form of communication between couples were sending letters and expensive long distance calls. Nowadays, we take for granted, the ways to communicate with one another: emailing, social media messaging, texting, phone calling, video calling, and even a more cute and old-fashioned way - sending mail. If you feel like your communication routine is getting boring, try switching to some other forms of communication. Remember, it takes two to make a long distance relationship work. If two people truly want to be together and are willing to put in the effort to try and make things work, there is nothing that can stop them from doing so.
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