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Finally, this note has been written. Earlier, I promised that I would write this note soon after The Relationship Curve note. Unfortunately, my sister and I came up with the note: Relationship Physics instead. If you haven't read either of those two notes, I suggest you read them now! Anyways, here is "The Relationship Cycle" just as I promised.
Okay, so a few months back I saw a video on Youtube created by a group called WongFu Productions known as: Strangers Again (The video can be seen here). If you haven't watched it before, there are spoilers in this note! This video kind of gave me an idea of how relationships occur in a cycle and surely have brought tears to many people who watched it. Anyways, moving along now. According to WongFu, most relationships go through different stages; something like this:
Stage 1: Meeting
An event caused by miraculous powers of the universe that results in the perfect timing of two people meeting one another. This meeting allows both people to interact and exchange phone numbers or a way to access each other's company.
Stage 2: The Chase
Some say it's the best part (Wang. P, 2011). This is the stage where both individuals strive to know more about each other and hang out as much as possible. I'm sure everyone knows what "The Chase" is and I do not need to explain much more. This stage ends as soon as both individuals officially declare that they are a couple.
Stage 3: Honeymoon
The stage where the couple can fully express their affection for one another. The couple spends lots of time with each other and getting to know everything about each other. This stage can last from weeks to months and rarely, years.
Stage 4: Comfortable
Now, this stage is very arbitrary. It can be a good stage or a bad stage, depending on the couple. It also determines the outcome or the direction of the relationship based on how the couple views the relationship. The comfortable stage is a stage where both individuals in the relationship can truly be comfortable with each other and being themselves. In WongFu's video, they give an example of the "comfortable" stage as being a bad one. A bad comfortable stage typically involves one or both persons in the relationship that stops trying and the feelings become weaker. I'll get back to this stage later on as this is a really important stage.
Stage 5: Tolerance
This stage only occurs when a couple has uses the comfortable stage negatively. The tolerance stage is pretty self-explanatory and basically describes when a couple tolerates each other's vices. Somehow the things that the couples loved about each other now turned into things that they both have to tolerate. As Phil says: "Arguing is one thing, but feeling dissatisfied with the relationship is another."
Stage 6: Downhill
There's not much time left when you reach this stage. The couple views the relationship as burden rather than a blessing and decides that it just isn't worth the time and effort anymore. Meaningless arguments arise while older ones continue to be unsolved. It is only a matter of time before a couple reaches the next stage.
Stage 7: Break-up
No explanation needed but most couples would probably want to end on good terms, which doesn't really happen most of the time.
(If you STILL haven't watched the video, I REALLY suggest you do so because the description I wrote above does not do the video ANY justice.)
This sums up the first part of the Relationship Cycle, if you want to keep reading, please go to part 2 → .
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